"He's just not that into you."

So last week was really hard. I was in NYC all week mourning the death of my good friend Sunil. Don't really want to get into a lot of detail about that, but while there and sitting in Mandi's (Sunil's wife) living room chatting with my friend Allison about e-harmony and guys she mentioned to me that she thought I should read a book called 'he's just not that into you'. Honestly in that moment I didn't really think I'd go get the book and read it...especially since it's a book written by a non-christian on relationships. anyways. this past saturday I was heading to caribou to meet up with my friend Heather. I was early and noticed a half priced book store right next door and meandered in. I went right to the christian section in hopes to find some Francine Rivers books and while on the way to that section there on display was 'he's just not that into you' book. so- with out hesitation I picked it up and paid a whooping $6.00 for it. Sunday afternoon, since it was fantastic outside, I hit the grass with my new book. I was pumped to get started. with highlighter in hand I opened up the book and was instantly glued to the pages. this book is raw and honest and maybe is something I should have read about 15 years ago. here are some of the thoughts that have stuck in my mind the past couple of days. tell me what you think on them.

1. if a 'sane' guy really likes you, there ain't nothing that's going to get in his way. And if he's not sane, or not asking you out, than why would you want him anyways. stop fretting over him!

2. when a guy is into you, he lets you know it. He calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he cant keep his eyes and hands off you... men are not complicated. There actions speak loud a clear.

3. a man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that he's just not that into you...thus all of his excuses!

4. Men find it very satisfying to get what they want, so screw the excuse 'to shy'.

5. (this one is my favorite) when men want you, they do the work. it sounds old school, but when a man likes a women, they ask her out! it's that simple. when they don't ask you out- they just aren't that into you!

6. (this one is my 2nd favorite) and i quote the author "you, the superfox reading this book, YOU ARE WORTH ASKING OUT.'

what do you think? thats enough for today. although i could keep writing al

l that i am learning about guys! good stuff....now, bring on a dude and lets put it into practice. :)

this picture is just of my new hair cut i got while in NY. and the super star sara that did it!